Have you ever wondered why some people just “love to run” or “love to work out” or “love to” whatever it is that you hate doing? How do you get yourself to love to do something that is good for you but you hate doing now? Are you doomed to fail at that activity? Or is there some key to learning to love it so that you can become the person you have always wanted to be?
The answer is simpler than you think.
Let me introduce you to anchors.
An anchor is a thought or a feeling or a behaviour that occurs as a result of one thing, one piece of information.
Something happens and we respond in a specific way without even thinking. So many anchors are created without us even knowing, but we can also create new anchors and make them repeatable by linking two experiences together even though they have nothing to do with each other.
What do I mean by that? Let me give you an example.
Say, you want to start reading more. Or you want your kids to read more. And your kids want a new iPad or a toy. Or you want a new iPad or a toy, haha. So you say: “Ok kids! Every time you read for 10 minutes, I will put a dollar in this jar”, and you label a jar so it says “iPad” or “toy”. You can decorate it or make it creative.
But you are now creating a game. So every time they read for 10 minutes, you put another dollar in a jar. You can even up the game and say: “if you read for a full 30 minutes without getting distracted, I will put a $5 bill in the jar”. So even more incentive to read. And now you are creating some rules for the game. And games with rules are fun.
So now you are linking the thing they don’t like doing, which is reading, with a game, which is fun, and the reward of getting something they want. And you are making it easy and simple.
And what that does is it creates a change or a shift, in their body, in their physiology, that begins a cascade release of specific key hormones that are responsible for helping them achieve the thing they didn’t think they could.
And the same can go for you. You can link an activity like running (if you want to start running but never liked it) to an activity or a thing you really want (like getting an expensive purse or a set of golf clubs or a vacation) and link the two together. And if you can create some more rules around it, and “up” the game with some other specific action, you will actually create a fun game for yourself that makes you want to do the thing you didn’t like doing before. And that feels good.
So if we can make it feel really good, we will want to do it again and again and again. And that’s the beginning of understanding anchors… and the beginning of understanding hormones.
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